If you and your partner have been trying to conceive and feel frustrated and confused about you can’t get pregnant now, we’re here to help ease your stress by sharing valid medical information and helpful tips. We want you to know our family of fertility doctors is here for you if you need us.
If you’re panicking and asking yourself, “Why can’t I get pregnant now?” there are several factors that may give you some peace of mind. One is that even when both partners are young and healthy it’s not always easy to conceive.
There is a common misconception that it’s easy for women to get pregnant on the first or second try, and that is not the case. It takes the average couple six months to a year to get pregnant.
When to Seek Help
If the female partner is less than 35 years old and you have been trying for 12 months, or if she is greater than 35 years old and you have been trying for 6 months, or if there is reason to suspect an issue with ovulation, fallopian tubes/uterus, or sperm, it is recommended you seek a fertility evaluation. When seeking a fertility consultation, first, take a deep breath and know that there is hope – there are plenty of avenues to pursue in your quest to build your family. You are not alone on this journey.
Approximately 7.4 million women in the U.S. experience infertility. While published statistics tend to focus on women’s infertility, it is important to note that infertility diagnoses are split evenly between men and women.
Most Common Reasons for Infertility
Let’s examine the most common reasons behind why you may be having trouble getting pregnant. As you will see, many of these reasons pertain to men and women.
- Irregular or absent periods
- You don’t ovulate, or you have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) which affects 5-10% of women
- Being overweight, obese, or underweight
- Endometriosis (causes infertility in 30-50% of women)
- Prior fibroid diagnosis
- A thyroid issue
- Smoking and unhealthy lifestyle habits
- Prior surgical history on the tubes, ovaries, or uterus
- Age – egg counts are constantly diminishing, making it harder for a woman in her mid to late 30s or early 40s to get pregnant
- Infection or inflammation in the prostate glands
- Prior surgical history on the testes
- Issues with erection or ejaculation
- Family history of genetic disease
- Male partner is undergoing testosterone treatment
- Repeated pregnancy loss or miscarriage
- A vasectomy or tubal ligation has been performed
Next Steps to Conception
In our practice, we recommend couples under the age of 35 keep trying for a year. There are ovulation calendars and kits that can help you track your cycle and know when to time intimacy. And, yes – it’s okay to have sex daily if you want, but it’s not necessary to conceive. There is a myth that daily intercourse lowers your chances, and it is just that – a myth.
Other options to optimize men’s and women’s fertility include:
- Track your cycles – there’s an app for that! We recommend Glow, an app for fertility and more.
- Eat a well-balanced diet.
- Get daily exercise.
- Start folate supplements 2-3 months BEFORE you try to conceive.
- Limit alcohol and caffeine.
- STOP SMOKING (associated with a list of infertility problems).
- If you are overweight, losing just 5-10 pounds can make a difference.
- Get a physical; check blood work for thyroid, anemia, or other issues.
- Make sure vaccines are up to date.
- Lower stress as much as possible
And lastly, try not to make everything about getting pregnant. It will create stress in your relationship and in your life. Go about your days as normally as possible, with an emphasis on self-care and spending quality time with your partner without it having to end in sex. Taking time to get a massage or treating yourself to a relaxing bath can go a long way to lowering stress so your body can function at optimal levels.
Ready for Help with Fertility?
If you are younger than 35 and aren’t pregnant in a year, over 35 and aren’t pregnant in 6 months, or if you’re having irregular cycles, plan to see your doctor. Around 85% of couples who are trying will be pregnant within a year, so if you can’t get pregnant now, it could be a sign that something medical is preventing you from conceiving and you may need extra help to achieve your goals of a family.
Fortunately there are fertility specialists, like all the physicians at Vios, who have received special training to help couples conceive. Treatments range from pills and shots to inseminations and in vitro fertilization. Most couples can conceive without IVF, so don’t let that be a barrier to seeking a medical evaluation.
If you still have questions about why you can’t get pregnant now, we are here to help and take away the uncertainty and stress that can make daily life challenging when you want a baby and it’s not happening. Contact us today to schedule an appointment.