Miscarriage is a heartbreaking reality for many as they try to conceive and, sometimes, a woman can experience multiple miscarriages in a row.
Recurrent Pregnancy Loss (RPL) is defined by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) as two or more consecutive pregnancy losses. We know this is a heartbreaking loss and we are committed to helping our patients find answers and treatment options to help.
The first step is a series of diagnostic tests to understand what may be causing the miscarriages. There are some common causes of RPL including genetic, hormone imbalance, uterine abnormality, and undiagnosed medical conditions. Some reasons remain unknown despite the myriad of available testing options.
At Vios Fertility Institute, we know struggling to build your family is tough. While we do everything we can to lessen the stress of fertility treatment for our patients, we know that the stress of uncertainty and lack of control often creeps in.
One of our favorite holiday traditions is our Tree of Hope. In each clinic waiting room during the holidays we put up a tree and offer paper “ornaments” to write words of encouragement and support for all to see. Our staff, our partners, our patients – anyone who would like to add to the tree is invited to and we hope that all who need a little “lift” can find it in at least one of the notes.
There’s no reason the encouragement should be contained to the holidays, though! So we’re sharing in this post for all to see anytime they need that little “lift”.
Always have your faith be bigger than your fear.
Celebrate the small victories.
You are stronger than you think!
You are not alone.
You are capable. You are strong. You are resilient.
If at first you don’t succeed, try try again.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel.
Good things are coming.
Don’t give up on something you cannot go a day without thinking about.
There’s a future you who’s glad you never gave up.
What would you add to this list? Share in the comments below.
2020 has been a difficult year so far and we are finally in the home stretch. Despite that, if you are someone struggling with infertility or recurrent pregnancy loss there is one more hurdle left – the holidays.
This time of year can be even more difficult for my patients when the pain and anxiety they feel day to day is exacerbated by the reminder that another year has passed without yet reaching their family goals.
Although celebrating this year will look very different for most of us, there will inevitably still be some small or virtual gatherings with family and friends that could lead to awkward questions from well-intentioned loved ones.
Questions like “Are you pregnant yet?” or “When are you going to start your family?” can seem innocent to the person asking the question but can be very hurtful to those who have been through fertility testing and treatment for months or sometimes years.
Another difficult scenario is the family member who tries to give helpful advice like “just relax and it will happen” or shares stories about how other couples achieved success that have nothing to do with your situation.
Despite this, there are ways to manage the stress of infertility during the holidays and make it easier to enjoy this time of year.
First, feel free to pick and choose who you spend time with. You are certainly not obligated to accept every invitation. Avoiding especially insensitive friends or relatives is okay.
Second, skip opening holiday cards with photos of others’ families and consider limiting your time on social media if those activities trigger negative feelings.
Third, take time to grieve if you need to. You may be grieving a miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, or a failed treatment cycle. The bottom line is, you do not need to pretend to be happy every moment so give yourself space to feel your true feelings and allow your partner to do the same.
Finally, find time to take care of yourself. It might be a small gift for yourself, an experience like spending some time outdoors, or some “me” time like a massage or a virtual yoga class. Don’t forget to take time to do the things that clear your mind and restore your body.
The simple truth is that the holidays can be a struggle for those dealing with the stress and pain of infertility. I hope these tips make your holidays brighter and allow you to find joy as we say farewell to 2020. Hooray for 2021!
As fertility specialists, we’re asked a lot about ovarian health and ovarian reserve – specifically egg quantity and quality.
A woman is born with all the eggs she’ll ever have. At birth, a baby girl typically has about 1 million eggs and by puberty this number has declined to 500,000. Each month, a handful of eggs are eligible to become mature but only one will be ovulated. (For a detailed description of this process, click here.)
Age is one of the most important factors in a woman’s fertility potential. Yet, there is no “magic” age and recent studies show that genetics and the environment also play an important role in egg and reproductive health.